Revealed! I’m Spilling all the Tips, Tricks & Secrets to getting HER into THAT.

Being in the lingerie & adult industry, every Valentine’s Day I get to see and hear about men struggling to buy lingerie for their woman, and it truly breaks my heart. It wouldn’t be such a difficult task if women didn’t expect you to KNOW all the answers or if even the slightest slip up wouldn’t give you the silent treatment PLUS an extra week on the couch. What women DON’T realize is that the ONLY way to really get what you want from a man is to straight up: ASK. Hinting, regardless of how blatantly obviously you think you’ve made your point, is a sure fired way to receive a great big box of disappointment with a pretty pink bow addressed to-YOU. After all, you did ask for it right? So ladies, do forgive me for spilling some of our best kept secrets, keep in mind I’m doing it for YOUR best interest and ultimate satisfaction.

First of all, I get a lot of the same reoccurring questions about whether or not it is appropriate to buy lingerie for their partner, or if it simply looks like another selfish jerk move on his part to only satisfy his inner fantasies. You do have to consider that being prince charming and a complete jerk is the finest line to cross and just when you think you’ve found the glass slipper, it shatters in your hands. Second of all, once they’ve overcome the first dilemma, and they actually get into the store, it’s the part that no man looks forward to in his whole ENTIRE life of shopping experience: taking the time to look around for the perfect piece- cut, color, size and all. Which brings us to the third issue men have when purchasing lingerie for their lover: figuring out their exact size, because it’s often not enough to describe how big her breasts are in comparison to how they feel in your hands.

I very much admire any guys that are willing to risk any or all of the above. Therefore, I would like to let you in on some of the best kept tips, tricks, and secrets to buying her the ideal piece of lingerie…

1. MAKE SURE IT’S EVEN AN OPTION- Do NOT get your woman lingerie if she has made it absolutely clear she will never wear it under any circumstances even AFTER hell freezes over (better opt for chocolates or flowers, or maybe a more open-minded woman if you REALLY like sexy lingerie).

2. FIGURE OUT HER STYLE- Sure, YOU might go for the slinkiest barely-there piece of lingerie, but this is about HER! Most women LOVE to receive lingerie as a gift for Valentine’s Day, I know I do. However, you have to find a piece she will like and feel comfortable and confident wearing for you (after all, we know the sexiest thing to wear for our man is confidence). Flip through a lingerie catalog together or check out some pieces online (http://bit.ly/P4pV ) to get a better idea of some specific colors, cuts, and designs she totally digs.

3. KNOW YOUR STUFF! - She might have told you size didn’t matter to boost YOUR ego (I am a women, and I know size always matters), but when purchasing lingerie, the proper size is CRUCIAL and I cannot stress enough how CRUCIAL it is. Size can be the difference in your sweet curvy little size 6 girlfriend gaining major self esteem issues from trying to suck into an XXSM ensemble. If you can discreetly take a peek at her bra and panty size without looking or even remotely feeling like a creeper (because if your feeling like one, chances are your probably being one) then go about it that way to keep her gift a surprise. Otherwise, just ASK to avoid looking and feeling like the worst man on the planet (lets face it, that IS how she will make you feel, after all- you’re expected to ‘KNOW’ everything about her remember?).

4. LEAVE YOUR PRIDE AT THE DOOR- Guys, we know you can put together furniture without any directions or fix a leaky sink without having any plumbing background what so ever, but PLEASE ask for assistance. Anyone working in a lingerie/sex shop is specifically trained to work with both men and women and they’ve probably helped out 10 other people right before you with that same exact problem.

5. GET THE D/L- Make yourself aware of the stores return policies. Also, keep your receipt. For obvious reasons!

6. PRESENTATION IS KEY- Especially on Valentine’s Day! Ask if they can wrap it for you (its worth the extra change). If not, get someone who KNOWS how to wrap to do it for you. Pay attention to detail, get her a romantic card and actually write how much she means to you (cheating and letting Hallmark say it all doesn’t count for much anymore) and perhaps adorn the package with a single long stemmed red rose for a touch of elegance.

7. BACK UP PLAN- When all else fails, get her a gift certificate. Let her do what she does best and shop. Be careful with this option though, it might seem slightly impersonal. To make sure it doesn’t come off as thoughtless perhaps write her a romantic letter telling her to go out and pick the perfect piece of lingerie that she feels comfortable to change into after you treat her to dinner. Valentine’s gift certificates generally look most presentable with a bouquet of flowers. (http://bit.ly/o5YV )


I wish every guy the best of luck with this near impossible task! I hope I’ve made it a touch easier for some of you. If done correctly you will reap the benefits of your research and all your hard work and be rewarded with the two main importances of Valentines Day: her satisfaction, along with yours.